52 Weeks of Gratitude Challenge – 3 Inspiring Women

I’ve never had a girl squad. By this, I mean that I’ve always had girl friends, but everyone has either been in a different city, state or country, and none of them really spent much time together because of this! I’m going to be talking about these girls in order of how long I’ve known them, my type of relationship with them, and what they mean to me. This doesn’t mean that I only feel this way about 3 of my friends, but there’ll be multiple opportunities throughout the year so to those of you who are reading this DON’T GET BUTTHURT MKAY? I’m looking at YOU Leo & Ken!! This post is meant to be weeks 5 & 8 and 11. Something someone gave you, express gratitude to 3 people and someone who inspires you.

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Outside of DNB after peeing our pants playing  one of those 4D zombie games  – November 2015

Jessica – My Cousin but not by blood but still by blood cuz who cares because I love her.

I’ve known Jess since practically birth. My mom and her family knew each other since before we were born and we kinda grew up together. I don’t remember too much of our childhood, other than pretending to be in the elephant graveyard scene in The Lion King but I remember always feeling like family. Her uncle/my uncle made up the nickname “Shuringring” and I’ve always loved it. There’s always something about filipino nicknames that make me laugh and I’m pretty sure 90% of my family on my mom’s side still call me Shuri. BESIDES THE POINT THOUGH.

I didn’t go to the same school with her until high school but always saw each other at family parties and her friends were always nice to me even though I was so weird and awkward. One thing I always think of about her is how Jess hasn’t changed…. like at ALL. She’s still the same person I remember from years ago. She’s always been a kind person but assertive when she needs to be, genuinely cares about other people, honest (she don’t mess around), she is easily pleased, is an amazing listener (one time she let Ali give her a google maps tour of Glasgow for like 3 hours), and is a huge inspiration to me.

Our relationship was always like, “let’s not talk for like 5 months but then talk for 10 hours straight when we finally catch up.” It’s more than just “right back where we started” but I’m not sure how to describe it. It never feels like we’ve stopped keeping in touch. Now, we message each other more often, still not all the time but I always get so excited to hear from her! I’m trying to convince her to move here so we’ll see how far we get LOL.

She inspires me because when she says she’s gonna do something, she does it! She’s ran at least a mile every single day since I can remember her starting it. She visited me and Ali with her fiancé in 2015 over Christmas and was the first person to just be like WE’RE COMING!! Not that people purposely avoid us, but she was the first one to visit from the states and that meant a lot to me. I’ll always admire her for her free spirit and how much joy she brings whenever you’re around her!

This one time Jess bought me an Ursula decal for my laptop 😀

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Hanging out in her pool on a hot summer day. This is a direct quote from the caption of this picture btw  “Ha! She brings the funny out of me! She knows me like a book, she’s honestly the best, even when she yells at me it’s for my own good.” YUP.

Kim – My lifelong friend that I yell at because I’m trying to protect her but she’s stubborn as frick and doesn’t listen lmao.

I’ve known Kim since elementary school. We were best friends and had a group of friends and we pretended to be the spice girls. She was baby spice. I’M GINGER. I’M ALWAYS GINGER. We were in almost all of the same classes (I think) and we also hated each other in middle school for reasons I can’t even remember. We have so many funny memories and to this day I still remember really embarrassing stories and I have to let her know right away and ruin her day. Two banana small strawberries.

Kim is the type of person who will do anything and everything for her friends and family. She’s a hard worker, a great listener, and does her best to make you feel comfortable and loved. She’s the definition of unconditional love, cares for others and even though it frustrates me because I can be protective of her, she still persists and will be there for those people she cares about.

When I was wedding planning, she drove from an hour and a half away to spend hours upon hours making things for Ali’s and my wedding… was that sentence grammatically correct? Whenever I visit her, she knows that hotlinks need to be involved because when we were kids, I used to go to her birthday parties and there’d always be hotlinks.. so tradition continues and now we’re almost 30 and less tolerant of spicy food LOL. Well maybe I am because UK. She has the patience of a saint for the most part and never really complained when her sister and I would tease her for just being Kim. LISTEN. DON’T JUDGE ME, THINGS ARE DIFFERENT WHEN YOU’RE FAMILY AND EVERYONE UNDERSTANDS EACH OTHER’S HUMOR LOL.

Our relationship has always been weird. She is like a sister to me and she pisses me off so much because she doesn’t listen to me but I’m sure I piss her off even if she won’t show it because I am stubborn and bossy. She’s bossy as frick too so that’s probably why we used to annoy each other so much hahaha! Basically she’s the Kimmy to my DJ.

Kim inspires me because she is so persistent and is so driven both in her career and life. She doesn’t give time to BS and just pushes through everything life throws her way.

This one time Kim bought me a dress because I bought her makeup.

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Showing her a nice view of San Jose. Apparently I didn’t love her enough to look at the camera she was facing. February 2013

Mack – One of my newest friends but knows me more than most and we talk about poop and cats a lot.

Mack is one of my most recent friends and we’ve only met once in person and met online. She lives in New Zealand and on a trip to LA, the same time Ali was over from Scotland in 2013, she took a bus all the way up to San Jose to see us and it was the funnest 24 hours LOL. We took her on a tour of SJ, fed her my mom’s bbq, took her to Oakridge, and made her inhale food at Evergreen Inn.

Mack is the type of woman who is very compassionate and puts everyone else’s needs before her own. She does her best to be there for whoever needs her whether it’s for a ranting session or deep conversation. She is an extremely hard worker, persistent, kind, and the least judgmental person I know.

We talk every single day (kinda). It’s basically like a bromance but not really because like the girls above, she is family to me.  We have many inside jokes and a lot of them are poop jokes. We both send each other cat memes and cry face emojis because that means that we’re pet deprived and need cats STAT but we don’t have any so we live through other people on Instagram. My personal fave kitty is Tingeling.

She inspires me because she is just a good person. If there was ever a good person in the world, it’s Mack. She is so respectful and understanding it’s unreal sometimes. I can tell her something I am hating about myself at any point in time and she’ll understand how I feel and can relate a lot of what I’m going through. She also understands my need for poop space in a big group and only one bathroom. I NEED MY PRIVACY AND POOP SPACE!

This one time Mack sent me a package full of cute stuffed animals and Kiwi goodies. I miss those bacon ring chips too.

All of these women inspire me to be strong and help me remember to be myself in different ways. They are all very similar in that they’re all the type of people who are kind, generous, and put up with whatever comes out of my mouth but what I love most about them is that they are hard workers and do all they can to take care of themselves and those around them. Also all the girls love Disney soooooooooooo THERE YA GO! LOVE YOU!!!!

Struggling & Need to Recharge!

I’ve been struggling a lot recently. It’s not as bad as before, but it’s still taking its toll on my everyday life. I’m not crying all the time (because of being homesick anyway, DAMN YOU WALKING DEAD!), but I haven’t found motivation to focus. I can’t really focus on anything and feel overwhelmed. Even though I know how to solve these problems I don’t want to do anything about it and it freakin sucks.

There have been periods however, that I have felt super happy! I think that’s because I was away from Manchester and closer to friends and family, or exploring a new city. Where I live isn’t a bad place to be at all. Our little village is very quiet with everything I need basically just around the corner. I think the biggest issue is that we don’t have friends or family near. I work for myself and Ali is getting his PhD so we’re both constantly working and our schedules are always WORK WORK WORK. We do get to spend a lot of time together though which is something I’m very thankful for because I know not many people get that luxury. I never want to be long distance from him again and we all know that so I guess I’ll save that for another time.

We recently went to York for a little PR challenge to watch The Conjuring 2 and sleep over in a 600 year old Haunted House. It was so freakin cool because neither of us have ever done that before and I’ve never been to York. It was such a beautiful city with so much interesting history (keyword: interesting) that I was genuinely excited about it and happy to explore.

Last weekend we went to Glasgow for my sister-in-law’s wedding and even though it was a busy weekend I was so happy to be around familiar faces and just be around people we love and a city where my husband grew up. I don’t really think I noticed how happy I was to be around family and friends until we got back here to where we basically don’t know anyone or have close enough friendships with to just call em up and be like “Hey come over and be boring and watch Netflix with us.”

After coming back from Glasgow I noticed I felt like I was in a slump again. I have little to no motivation and I really do need a change. I think once we go back to California,  have a proper vacation and we don’t have to worry about work as much, I’ll be able to recharge and actually feel better when we get back to Manchester. That’s what I’m hoping for anyway.

There is so much to do when we visit California. I really wish it was a longer visit, but I’ll take 2 weeks over 0 any day! I’m most excited about Thanksgiving with my family and our little traditions that we have. After we have dinner (which is basically an all-day food thaaang) we either go to another family member’s house or watch a movie. This year we’re going with my mom to watch Moana and hopefully Fantastic Beast and Where to Find Them. We’re taking my little bro #hunniezatdamawl to Disneyland and Ali is going to be a tourist in LA for the first time. We’re going to spend some time at Leo & Ken’s and have Friendsgiving, hang out at a bar with friends, have a traditional board game night with my sister and family friends, and hopefully I can convince my mom to decorate the house for Christmas before we leave LOL.

Talking about what we have planned so far is actually making me excited… so that helped LOL. I really should write in this thing more often. I’m pretty sure I say that in ever blog but OH WELL!

Thanks for reading and I’ll be sure to keep everyone updated through my social media! 11 days to go!

❤ Gloria